Jealous Behavior
Envy.
Jealousy.
Covet.
All of those things seem bad. To me, they are bad only MOST of the time.
Last night, GH and I were discussing Halloween costumes when I decided I would be a Playboy Bunny. He, of course, would be Hugh but he mentioned how the night was going to be a long one.
I asked why and he told me that he would be fighting the urge to cover me up all evening. Interested, I asked if he would rather me pick a different outfit. He responded with a big N-O.
What a twisted world that must be...
Part of GH wants to show me off, and the other half wants to keep me from exposing myself. Do guys sit around and talk about other guys girlfriends? About how they'd look naked or how lucky the guy must be? Do they see a half exposed girl and immediately try to take her away from the guy she's with?
Then I looked at myself and thought of the times I've been jealous. Usually, I get jealous when a girl sees GH cook, or bring me coffee, or if they spent a lot of time with him and I didn't get too. But if he walked out half exposed, I wouldn't be jealous of who saw him. Does that make guys angry? Do they want their girls to wish for them to cover up? If he did walk out half exposed, I might try to sneak off with him at some point to play naughty, but I wouldn't care if other girls saw his chest or legs or whatever (ok maybe the meat and potatos part, that i might be jealous of, but who wouldn't, thats why you hate the person's ex-whatevers)
I don't know about a guy's point of view, but when girls get together to discuss boyfriends and whatnot, usually looks and nakedness are either a brief first thing, or a last brief thing to talk about. And definitely not the most important. In fact, girls tastes in men vary so much (at least from my experience) that most girls don't think the same men are good looking. They instead talk about WHAT a guy did for them sexually or not sexually.
It's a mystery on what guys talk about, but I have a good feeling most of it involves ass and titties in some way.
Jealousy.
Covet.
All of those things seem bad. To me, they are bad only MOST of the time.
Last night, GH and I were discussing Halloween costumes when I decided I would be a Playboy Bunny. He, of course, would be Hugh but he mentioned how the night was going to be a long one.
I asked why and he told me that he would be fighting the urge to cover me up all evening. Interested, I asked if he would rather me pick a different outfit. He responded with a big N-O.
What a twisted world that must be...
Part of GH wants to show me off, and the other half wants to keep me from exposing myself. Do guys sit around and talk about other guys girlfriends? About how they'd look naked or how lucky the guy must be? Do they see a half exposed girl and immediately try to take her away from the guy she's with?
Then I looked at myself and thought of the times I've been jealous. Usually, I get jealous when a girl sees GH cook, or bring me coffee, or if they spent a lot of time with him and I didn't get too. But if he walked out half exposed, I wouldn't be jealous of who saw him. Does that make guys angry? Do they want their girls to wish for them to cover up? If he did walk out half exposed, I might try to sneak off with him at some point to play naughty, but I wouldn't care if other girls saw his chest or legs or whatever (ok maybe the meat and potatos part, that i might be jealous of, but who wouldn't, thats why you hate the person's ex-whatevers)
I don't know about a guy's point of view, but when girls get together to discuss boyfriends and whatnot, usually looks and nakedness are either a brief first thing, or a last brief thing to talk about. And definitely not the most important. In fact, girls tastes in men vary so much (at least from my experience) that most girls don't think the same men are good looking. They instead talk about WHAT a guy did for them sexually or not sexually.
It's a mystery on what guys talk about, but I have a good feeling most of it involves ass and titties in some way.
posted by sipwine at 1:49 PM
8 Comments:
Yes guys get jealous, yet we are conditioned that jealousy is in fact a bad thing and will drive women away so we either squash the emotion or fail to do that in which case we squash the guy causing the jealousy.
And most of the time guys do not discuss current girls in our lives with each other, and if we do I have never been in a discussion that in anyway talked about her sexual prowess...now ex-gf's are a different story all together, we disect there sexual skill and lack there of with no remorse. But a current gf: NEVER.
And as for acknowledging the "yes, no or number of beers" factor of a mates gf...erm...we all do it, we just don't talk about it, at least with the guy around. ~grin~
A little jealousy is a good thing. I would be flattered if my bf wanted to cover me up on Halloween...in fact, he told me he wouldnt be too thrilled if I went out as The Little Mermaid in just a shell bikini top. But to frank, neither would I. That much attention would make me uncomfortable as it would make him (plus I would have to lose 15 pounds).
But think about it if he didn't care you would be a little miffed too. And I know when I get jealous (and I SO do) he finds it a bit flattering too.
So as long as neither person goes pyscho, of course.
Indiana gets it right on the dot. Men don't discuss their gf's or wives with each other. Neither the sex bits nor the emotional bits (except when piss-drunk and broken-hearted). I suspect women discuss their men's looks and nakedness more than men do!
But verbally undressing actresses, models, singers, the waitress at the bar and every other double-X-chromosomed being on the planet -- all the time.
Jealousy is common though and I think different men deal with it differently. Some become aloof and bottle it up, others confront the SO, but I think perhaps the most common response is to confide in male friends and hope for commiseration.
What Indy wrote.
Indy: If I ever have a serious "how-do-guys-work" question that I need answered, I'm going to talk to you. ;) Very insightful, I always wondered if I blew Mr. Right if he would tell his friends.
Wanderer: I agree with you. I think I would be miffed if he wasn't a little jealous of the guys seeing my costume. :)
Knobby: So GH is more worried about every man at the bar undressing me with his eyes.... i could see that... :)
Wombat: I'll defer to you too, when it comes to the questions I have about men.
I suspect women discuss their men's looks and nakedness more than men do!
So, somewhat coincidentally, I received further evidence of this today. I'm working at a client's office as part of a small team and today I was told by my (female) project manager that all the men in our team have been feverishly and fervently discussed and rated for our looks, personality and whatever else you ladies talk about. None of us is a looker or anything like that, as far as I can see, so I fail to see the excitement. Lol
Of course, our project manager also refused to give us any further details (who likes whom, what the ratings are..) One of my colleagues is on tenterhooks. :)
I can't imagine too many men indulging in this kind of discussion!
Knobby: So GH is more worried about every man at the bar undressing me with his eyes.... i could see that... :)
Yes, of course. He loves you :) BTW, I don't think he wants to show you off. He wants you to show yourself off to him!
Knobby: I have seen women get together and talk at length about guys and ratings of them. So I could see that the project manager discussing the men on the team, but interesting that she told you. Usually, unless they like you, that sort of stuff is kept under wraps. And, I do show myself off to GH whenever I can. I get lots of compliments that way ;)
...interesting that she told you.
Oh, that's because she likes to act like one of the guys. Apart from which, she's a little older than the rest of us, so the dynamic is a little different (read: she mothers us and chides us). Plus she's supposed to be on "our side", given that we're part of the same team!
And, I do show myself off to GH whenever I can. I get lots of compliments that way
I'm sure you do. Post a piccy sometime! Something shadowy and mysterious perhaps if you're not ready for full-frontal. Like this?
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