Independant vs. Dependant
The Independent Man:
The Independent Man will never come when you call.
He will have his friends, and you'll have yours. Sometimes you'll hang out together, sometimes you won't.
He will have his time, you will have yours.
He will always be there, if you've had a bad day or need to talk, but if you've had neither of those, then you should respect his away time from you.
He will have his own personal interests that he doesn't expect you to share.
He will say "I love you" only on rare or special occasions.
If you are with him, he will expect you to use your head and not react so quickly to things he might say to you.
If you've had a long day, and just want to cancel evening plans with him, he will gladly do so, as long as you give him the same respect back.
The Dependant Man:
The Dependant man will be there on a moments notice.
He will want to share part of his life with you.
If you've had a long day at work, you can expect flowers or a meal ready for you when you get home.
He will always want to sleep beside you, even if you've had a bad day.
He will make future plans with you and hold to them as long as you are in his life.
He won't find that talking about future baby names is scary.
If you aren't home when you say you will be, he will get worried and call around to try to find you.
Pros and Cons:
Dependant Pros - You never have to worry.
Independent Pros - You can be yourself around him.
Dependant Cons - Suffocation
Independent Cons - Disappearing
Who are you? Which would you choose? Do people switch back and forth?
The Independent Man will never come when you call.
He will have his friends, and you'll have yours. Sometimes you'll hang out together, sometimes you won't.
He will have his time, you will have yours.
He will always be there, if you've had a bad day or need to talk, but if you've had neither of those, then you should respect his away time from you.
He will have his own personal interests that he doesn't expect you to share.
He will say "I love you" only on rare or special occasions.
If you are with him, he will expect you to use your head and not react so quickly to things he might say to you.
If you've had a long day, and just want to cancel evening plans with him, he will gladly do so, as long as you give him the same respect back.
The Dependant Man:
The Dependant man will be there on a moments notice.
He will want to share part of his life with you.
If you've had a long day at work, you can expect flowers or a meal ready for you when you get home.
He will always want to sleep beside you, even if you've had a bad day.
He will make future plans with you and hold to them as long as you are in his life.
He won't find that talking about future baby names is scary.
If you aren't home when you say you will be, he will get worried and call around to try to find you.
Pros and Cons:
Dependant Pros - You never have to worry.
Independent Pros - You can be yourself around him.
Dependant Cons - Suffocation
Independent Cons - Disappearing
Who are you? Which would you choose? Do people switch back and forth?
posted by sipwine at 11:18 AM
4 Comments:
I think I'm lucky cuz my man is a little from column A and a little from column B. I think a little mix of everything is the best way to go (probably because I myself am a little of both as well).
Also, I often balance is better than two extremes...
PS I also think you do need to switch back and forth, if only to just appreciate both kind of guys in their own way. I've had dependent and I've had dependent which is why I can honestly say that what works best for me is something a it in the middle.
Sorry, that was I've had dependent guys and INDEPENDENT guys....
Sigh, maybe I am already drunk.
Wanderer: I've spelled independent wrong too... just look at the title.
heh heh
I appreciate both kinds of guys, there are just both confusing.
Maybe I do need a middle man.(ha)
MBIC: I think GH is dependant too. I think I'm more independent, which isn't good either.
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