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Second Chances?
Right now Matt and GH both call my phone constantly.
My friends think it's hilarious, I just wonder why.
Matt never knew about GH. He has no idea I dated him, or broke up with him.
Just about 3 weeks ago, showed up at the same bar as me, telling me he made a mistake, and has honestly tried to be in my life again.
I try to stay the fuck away.
GH and I broke up last Sunday. Since then, he's called me just-as-much as when we were dating. Most of the calls I don't answer since all he wants to do is say "hi."
I try to stay the fuck away.
Since day one of my dating career (can I use the word "career" here? it seems like I get better and better at my job of finding a significant other) I've been told not to give second chances. For good reason. If it doesn't work out the first time, why would it work out the second? But two men call me every day thinking to themselves that a second chance is all they need.
When I talk to my friends about it, most don't have an opinion one way or the other. And some friends, like MM and MW want me to give second chances (MW wants Matt to be back in my life so badly that she's called me every day to ask if I've talked to him).
I think I'm going to turn off the phone, shut down my e-mail, go to the library, find a good book, and pretend my dating career never existed.
I think I'm giving myself sound advice too.
Right now Matt and GH both call my phone constantly.
My friends think it's hilarious, I just wonder why.
Matt never knew about GH. He has no idea I dated him, or broke up with him.
Just about 3 weeks ago, showed up at the same bar as me, telling me he made a mistake, and has honestly tried to be in my life again.
I try to stay the fuck away.
GH and I broke up last Sunday. Since then, he's called me just-as-much as when we were dating. Most of the calls I don't answer since all he wants to do is say "hi."
I try to stay the fuck away.
Since day one of my dating career (can I use the word "career" here? it seems like I get better and better at my job of finding a significant other) I've been told not to give second chances. For good reason. If it doesn't work out the first time, why would it work out the second? But two men call me every day thinking to themselves that a second chance is all they need.
When I talk to my friends about it, most don't have an opinion one way or the other. And some friends, like MM and MW want me to give second chances (MW wants Matt to be back in my life so badly that she's called me every day to ask if I've talked to him).
I think I'm going to turn off the phone, shut down my e-mail, go to the library, find a good book, and pretend my dating career never existed.
I think I'm giving myself sound advice too.
posted by sipwine at 11:30 AM
4 Comments:
You can always run away to a foreign destination...I have even doen that once to "get"over" a relationship gone bad.
Yeah QSW, you should go to Singapore ;)
I do have to say one thing about GH...is it just the fact that he is clingy? Because I used to be clingy and I am not anywhere...yes it took a breakup and a few years of solo travel to get me to where I am now but I changed. Do you not think GH can change too and thus deserve a second chance? He seemed like such a wonderful guy.
Or are there more things at stake than just him being dependent?
Indy: It's funny, a couple people said I just need to get out of here for awhile to get away, i'm hoping the travelling I'm doing in December will be good enough to let me forget a lot.
Wanderer: I use to be clingy too. I know where you are coming from. GH has a lot of things going for him, but there are some key things I've noticed that we are going to have major problems with. Politics and religion, we are opposite on. Sex is a major issue, after 2 months of "teaching" I'm starting to get tired of always being the teacher and never the equal.
Things could change, and I could give him a second chance, but "changing" to be with someone also scares me a lot.
Yeah you have a good point. Change only if you want to (just as he should change only if he wants to). Sometimes you just gotta let things happen. I am a firm believer in just going with the flow and if it's meant to be, it will. Of course, it's easier to say this than do it ;)
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